My life has seen its fair share of romance, ranging from the earth-shakingly glorious to the very much less so.
I’ve never worked at hard at it – just throwing myself into life with all the zeal and the biggest heart I can muster has always been enough.
However, a couple of recent and rather amusing incidents have had me reflecting that it’s about time I started making more of an effort in cultivating this long-neglected part of my life.
Nothing too drastic …
Spend some money on clothes so I am able to step out looking a little sharper than I do wearing my habitual current uniform of T-shirts and baggy cargo pants.
Shave more than once a week.
Be a little more assertive and a whole less ambivalent when an opportunity presents.
Stuff like that …
Some may think a hyperactive food blogger – one who even regularly hosts his own blog dinners, for heaven’s sake! – is presented with ample opportunity to generate romantic potential.
It’s true that through Consider The Sauce I have met and am continuing to meet an astonishing range of fabulous people. And yes, many of them are incredible souls of the appropriate gender.
But overwhelmingly they are much younger than I. Or married. Or both.
They bring a lot of sunshine into my life – but in this context at least, there are different kinds of sunshine.
The age thingie is no issue at all for me and I certainly don’t feel my age (21).
But I suspect it bloody well is for many women!
On the other hand, I simply can’t see myself having any truck with dating websites and the like.
So what am I looking for?
The truth is, the merest whiff of romance would make me giddy with happiness.
And I think it’s important to keep in mind what a friend and I have come to think of as “The Vanakkam Principle” – after a cool slogan above the front door of that very fine West Footscray Indian eatery:
“Cherish yesterday. Dream tomorrow. Live today.”
So, you know, a date is just a date – and not a shacking-up proposal or any other kind of proposal.
It’s time to stop being such a slacker!